From when we started dating, Renee and I always enjoyed creating things together, and we have nicely complementary sets of skills. She is artistic and gifted with things like color, texture, design, sewing, painting, and on and on and on... I can do manly stuff like saw and glue wood. She likes to scrapbook and I like to take pictures. We are a match, right?
Quick example ... this 3'x4' creation is over our dining table. The tree branches are tiny slivers of newspaper all glued on there. Crazy stuff. And I made the frame.
Early in our marriage, while we were in major house decorating mode, we really did a lot of creative things together. Since then our individual projects and wants seem to take more and more of our time and energy.
Sooooo... now that we have created a baby together, I think we also need to revisit and prioritize being creative together as a bonding experience.
And working on individual projects in adjoining rooms while listening to the same music does not count.
There is something about the exchange of ideas and accomplishing a shared goal that has positive repercussions in every other part of our relationship. All of the little projects will be the foundation of trust and communication for our biggest project.. parenting.
That also means I need to encourage, instigate and follow through on some of the projects that have been low on the priority list to shore up that foundation as much as possible before it gets crazy in here.
Accomplishing things together comes from shared goals. Shared goals come from communication and selflessness. Communication and selflessness are a result of trust and love. Trust and love come from faith.
Sooo... creating the baby may have been easier than creating a piece of art, but raising a son to be a good man? May the Lord smile on us!
What do you do to create shared accomplishment with your spouse?